Question!

I have had a lot of great feedback on my parenting skills throughout my series of social networks, friends and families. A lot of people on my former blog (Sup, Livejournal-type-people?!), a handful of emails and just a slew of happens-every-day questions have been brought to the table, and I figured I would blog my answers to a few of these questions.

Q: Kaiden is a very unique name - had you thought of any other names before you decided on it?

A: I absolutely fell in love with the name Kaiden from the get-go. I actually heard it on a video game (Mass Effect, y'all!) and never really thought of any other male names, to be honest. Although when I did think I was having a girl I had thrown together "Alexis" "Callie" "Kaylie" and "Makayla". The final one was still in the process, and I guess we never really found out how that one would have turned out!

Q: Thoughts on circumcision?

A: To each their own! This was a large question in parenting classes, and not really a huge topic of conversation in my household. I'm a firm believer in not altering what god gave you - in the sense of adding or taking away things, not like..hair dye - so I knew from the moment I found out I was having a son, I wasn't having it done. I understand the cleanliness issues and all that goes with it, but that's a bridge I'm willing to cross.

Q: What is your biggest fear as a mother? Your biggest flaw?

A: I think it's safe to say my biggest fear is missing something. Time cannot be changed, and I would never forgive myself if I didn't cherish every second I have with him, holding on to every single detail my mind can wrap itself around. My biggest flaw when it comes to my parenting ability is not listening to my own feelings about how he should be raised versus what everyone else says. Sometimes I listen instead of trusting my own parental instinct, when it comes to family members and friends - I need to learn to trust myself, I'm a great mother and I know exactly what my little boy needs.

Q: How many babies will you end up having?

A: If financial situations and babies had nothing to do with one another, I'd have 10. They bring such happiness and a sense of purpose. However, as my baby doesn't poop out gold.. I think I'd be comfortable with 2, maybe 3. It's hard to imagine my heart could ever expand to fit more than just Kaiden for now, though.

And that's all, folks!

- Candace